This may catch you off guard, but health-wise, it's NBD. For some women, dirty talk is incredibly sexy—that is, until it comes out of their own mouths, because trying it for the first time can make you want to giggle like a middle schooler. On the other hand, if you're the partner who's craving dirty talk but are afraid to ask for it, know that you're not alone.
For many, their very first orgasm is an exciting first step toward exploring their sexuality. Others hardly remember it. Experiences range from embarrassing to romantic highlight.
Few things command your full attention like an orgasm. And when we lose all of our inhibitions, unexpected things can happen. Take me, for instance.
Skip navigation! This story was originally published on August 1, Orgasm can be an elusive goal for many women.
It took forever because I didn't know what I was doing and when it finally happened, I didn't know what it was, just that it felt good. When my parents confronted me about the rising water bill, I didn't masturbate again 'til high school when I discovered porn. I was one of the last ones off and I didn't even have the mind to clean up afterwards.
As a college freshman, during my one-night-stand streak, I was hooking up with this guy from my creative writing workshop—an intellectual type who dressed well and always had insightful feedback—and I queafed in his face while he was eating me out. We were dating pretty seriously, so he was nice about it. But I was mortified.
Or at least it can if the ideal image you have of sex comes from the movies, romance novels, or even most sex education material. When we see sex depicted it's usually either highly glamorized and glossy or clinical but precise. Neither of these are real.
Q: This is mortifying, but I've never had an orgasm. Are some people just incapable? A: It's extremely rare for a woman to be physically unable to achieve orgasm, though it's not unusual for a woman to think that she's missing the orgasm gene.